Sunday, January 25, 2009

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My dad told me today that he thinks I should be here when she dies.

5 comments:

Jules said...

.....and what do you think about that.....?

Heidi said...

Short version: a logistical nightmare since we all agree that the Cracker should not there to witness her in her final weeks. And of course there is a lot more to it than that. I'll probably write more about it at a later date, but I have limited computer and heavy thinking time here.

It was sweet of you to ask.

Trish said...

what does she think?

Heidi said...

Trish, since she won't know if I'm here or not in her final days I've been too chicken to even bring it up, and I know my dad hasn't either. My mom is still in "fighting mode" even though she's now making decisions about how many more treatments she will go through before picking quality over quantity. 11 years ago she took care of her own father in his final weeks, also cancer. Sometimes I'm sure she wouldn't want me here to witness it, and others I think she'll want me here to support my dad. We have no other family close by that will be involved. I guess one of these days I'll have to ask, just not ready yet.

Trish said...

I think that's a fair answer..
I honestly don't know what I would do in your shoes.
We're here no matter what.